Is He Falling For Me? 25 Signs He Likes You But Is Playing It Cool

We meet with many people every day, including neighbors, coworkers, receptionists in the coffee shop, and the one who might like you.

You are reading the post probably because you need to figure out if a guy likes you secretly, and in this post, we will talk about 25 signs he likes you but is playing it cool.

When you catch a guy doing this repeated set of things, it means he most likely is into you, but he is too apprehensive about revealing his true feelings.

1 He is all eyes and ears when you are talking

A man interested in you will never be distracted from the conversation by any interference.

He will not commit impolite behavior, such as checking his phone constantly, viewing the scene out of the window, etc. Nothing but the conversation matters now because he wants you to know he is fascinated by you but does not want to say it directly.

He never gets bored when you talk, even if he is not concerned with the topic. If unfamiliar with the subject, he will try to remember keywords in what you just said and repeat them in response to create a cozy atmosphere for the talk.

2 He imitates your body language

Mirroring is when we try to copy someone’s actions to form a connection with that person. When a man mirrors your choice of words and body language, it probably means he has a crush on you. Most of the time, imitating someone we are interested in is something we unconsciously do.

Observe if he’s imitating your body language, such as tilting the head, leaning while talking, or other body positions. Aside from this, a trick you can do now to know if he’s watching you is by checking your watch or by yawning. If he does the same, you obviously know what it means.

3 You can always feel his staring

When a man is too shy to admit his feelings, he will try his best to hide them. However, eyes are hard to control.

Even when both of you are in a room crammed with people, he will persistently seek you. This is why a person’s eye is something you should observe, especially when you want to know if he’s interested in you.

Although he can’t express his feelings through words, a man who likes you will look at you as if you’re the only woman and the most attractive person in the world. He will look deep into your eyes, and it seems he’s trying to read your mind. He wants to confirm if you feel the same way.

4 He looks away when you notice him

When a man looks away, it does not mean he doesn’t like you. As a matter of fact, it entirely indicates the opposite meaning.

If he avoided your gaze, it might be because he’s too shy and doesn’t dare to talk or even make eye contact with you.

He might be thinking, what if she knows I’m interested in her? What am I going to do, etc.? Those things make him even more conscious and nervous about himself, and that’s why he chose to look away.

Obviously, he needs more time to think of how to approach you.

5 He’s conscious about his physical appearance

As a woman, you always want to look the best when in the same room with your crush. As you guess what, the same thing goes for men.

Just like how conscious you are about your hair and makeup, a guy who likes you wants to look his best whenever you are around.

If he likes you, he wants you to be impressed by his appearance. That’s why he constantly fixes his clothes, checks his hair in the mirror, sprays cologne on his clothes, and more.

Another reason he tends to fix something on his body is that he’s extremely nervous and doesn’t know where to place his hands.

As a result, he will check if his clothes have a crease or a strand of his hair is not in position to keep himself busy and look natural around you.

6 He tries to have physical contact with you

A man who likes you will do everything to get close. He may be placing his hand on your back, sitting next to you, or taking the hair away from your face. If this happens more than twice, it’s a good sign that he likes you.

While you are engaged in a conversation, he may try to wipe something off your face or unconsciously put his hand on your shoulders. In short, he will take every opportunity to get into physical contact with you.

However, everything has limitations. If you’re not comfortable about something or if he’s crossing the limit, it’s best to warn him and let him know about it. Keep in mind that respect is an essential factor in any relationship.

7 He decides what to do up to your reaction

He may be cracking a joke or telling a story among people, and when he’s done, he will look at your reaction because he wants to know your thoughts by analyzing your response.

Try to observe how much he looks at you compared to other people. If he looks at you more often than he has to be, he’s definitely interested in you.

After all, we only react to things we care about.

8 He brings you presents always

Presents stand for his true feelings.

Words can not express everything, especially in an awkward or secret situation. When falling in love with other people or needing their assistance, we give away gifts to express our needs indirectly.

So, if a guy gives you gifts without showing his needs, he probably likes you secretly. And receiving gifts means you have affection for him from his perspective.

However, collecting too many gifts might be inappropriate if you are not interested in him.

9 You enlighten his mood when being with him

A guy who likes you might act differently in front of his friends than when you’re around because he doesn’t want to treat you the same as everyone else, which is a good thing.

You can see how his mood changes by constantly smiling, not just with his smile but through his eyes. You might also notice a man blushing on his face, which means he is feeling happy now. A smile is one of the best gifts a guy can give to their crush because it indicates that he wants to spread a positive atmosphere.

If you are his crush, you are giving him energy. You stir up feelings for him that nobody else can. That’s why he’s ultimately a different person whenever you’re around.

10 He acts more protective towards you

A guy who likes you always try to be your hero and protect you.

He will try to do you a favor when you are faced with intruders and troubles. He will change or terminate the topic if others’ opinions make you uncomfortable. He will not let it happen that you walk home alone at night or get trapped in other harmful situations.

If you can feel these happen occasionally, it probably signifies that he likes you.

11 He finds ways to stay with you more

When someone who crushes on you is with you, his body generates more chemicals called dopamine that make one feel happy and serene.

The underlying principle is similar to eating when you are hungry. In this situation, he becomes hungry for dopamine and other uplifting chemicals, and his hunger feeds on your company. So, to feel more prolonged peace and happiness, he makes more excuses to get close to you.

For instance, you two meet in the street, and he finds out you are going to the church. He probably will plan to go with you even if he has already decided to go home early.

Even though you know he is getting things to do at home and talk to him frankly, he will likely not change his mind. That’s precisely how someone into you behaves.

12 He attempts to know you from indirect ways

A guy who likes you but is playing it cool will not ask for your information from your mouth. There exists more than one type of person who might have already fallen in love with you. I divided the probable group of people into two parts, the introverted ones, and the extroverted ones.

12.1 The extroverted ones

For the extroverted ones, playing it cool is just a temporary choice.

To be well prepared before dating you formally, he tries to gather as detailed information about you as possible. Because after having a comprehensive understanding of you, he gets more confidence to meet with you next time and owns a higher chance of dating you successfully.

Extroverted guys who like you will learn about you from your friends, family, coworkers, classmates, or even the waiter in the restaurant you often visit. And stuff like your lifestyle or interests will be the tier one question.

12.2 The introverted ones

An introverted guy demonstrates the opposite when compared with the extroverted. And signs an introverted guy likes you are partly the same as signs a fearful avoidant loves you:

• They stay away from promises.
• They share little secrets with you.
• It takes work to make them trust in something.
• They feel uncomfortable when having physical contact with people. Even though they like you, they still avoid staying close to you.
• They invite you to their home instead of other public places.
• They introduce their family and friends to you but never to others.
• ……

They are shyer and probably will not be so active in collecting your information. They don’t speak too much but care more about your social media.

But they will not hesitate if they get to know you indirectly.

13 He arranges informal dates with you

A guy who likes you secretly will not ask for a formal date. He will compensate with casual or secret dates to stay with you more. He makes every possible excuse other than just a date for an invitation.

He might invite you as his plus one for some dinner party. He might tell you to tag along for some parties, so it seems like he’s not the only one who’s single. He might even tell you he’s researching animals, so you should join since you like animals.

14 He keeps small details of you in mind

Even though he’s playing it cool, a guy who likes you will still keep mentioning small things about you before. Clearly, he remembered information about you deliberately and probably liked you.

A guy playing it cool may not express much about his feelings, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. He keeps in mind secretly about your interests, the way you talk, and the special moments you took his breath away.

And some details are even difficult to recall if he does not mention them. They might be a joke or random words you said yesterday, but he remembered anyway.

15 He gets jealousy secretly when you treat others better than him

There’s nothing worse than listening to your crush talk about someone else. If someone likes you, he feels uncomfortable when you pay attention to other people more than him.

He rarely asks questions about your partner and doesn’t want to hear details about your emotional experience. Why? Because he is jealous.

When you talk about liking someone else, this person feels like being punched in the belly. You might see their jealousy flare up in other ways.

If you’re flirting with someone, for example, he might make excuses to steal you away. Or maybe he’ll rival your partner to prove their value.

Either way, people get jealous when the one they like shows affection for someone else. If a guy avoids any mention of your emotional experience, there’s a good chance he is hiding his true feelings.

16 He acts not interested in other girls in front of you

Do you know someone who avoids talking about relationships? He never mentions people he likes. He doesn’t acknowledge attractive people or show interest in anyone he meets.

You might be wondering what’s wrong, but the problem isn’t about him. It’s about you.

He is not concerned about anybody else though possibly other people might try to flirt with him. Because he is more interested in you, or maybe someone you know has a crush on them. But anyway, he doesn’t want to talk about it.

He wants you to know one thing loud and clear:

He is single and available. He isn’t flirting with other people. He doesn’t want to date anyone else and isn’t sending you mixed messages. He may never say, “I like you, and how about being my girlfriend,” but is hiding the interest for some reason.

A guy who doesn’t like you and treats you as a regular friend will not cover the emotional part of life. If anything, he would broadcast his interests to let you know that his attention is directed elsewhere.

But he didn’t and will not do that because only one person catches his eye. And the very person is you.

17 he compliments you without stinginess

In the eyes of the guy who really likes you, you are pretty and perfect in all aspects, including every action, talk, and smile.

When you are sad and lost, what he will do is not laugh and suppress but encourage and silently company. If you need him, he will be there right away. He will support you silently by your side if you have any hidden trouble.

If he can’t express it, he will prove it with action. No matter when the corner of his heart always belongs to you. And all the true passionate feelings hide beneath the cover of his impassive face.

18 He joked about the relationship between you two

Sometimes, people use humor to express genuine feelings without giving too much away. A guy who likes you might ask, “wouldn’t it be weird if we started dating?”

He pretends to be making a joke, but deep down, he confesses the hidden feelings to see how you’ll react.

If you get embarrassed, happy, or flustered, he might signify you feel the same way. He might be encouraged to confess his feelings directly. Nevertheless, he’ll pretend to act like nothing ever happened if you aren’t excited or embarrassed.

So get to know these not-so-hidden hypotheses. If someone you know jokes about being in a relationship, he might hope it will be real.

19 He makes more daily intersections with you

Do you run into this person almost everywhere you go?（make more chance to meet）

Does it feel like your lives have become suddenly intertwined?

It feels like a coincidence, but it’s not. He’ll find creative ways to blend your lives when someone likes you. He’ll join the same groups, participate in the same hobbies, and even frequent your favorite restaurants.

Why? Because he wants to run into you. He wants to create more opportunities to spend time with you, share mutual interests, and understand the things you enjoy. Because the more time you spend together, the closer you’ll become.

20 He asks what traits a girl would like in a man

A guy who likes you secretly will not ask about your ideal crush because it reveals his true feelings.

He will intentionally talk about emotional topics when chatting with you. Even though he knows you are single, he will still ask if you are in a relationship.

And to draw the image of your crush clearly, he will expand the scope of the samples and ask you what traits a “girl” would like in a man in a sort of tongue-in-cheek kind of way.

He is checking if he matches your needs by doing these.

21 He gets nervous when being around you

Does his behavior change when you enter the room? What’s the reason for that? The simple answer is he likes you.

Typically, a guy doesn’t care what regular people think of him. Being calm and confident is easy in other situations, but things change when it comes to you. Your opinion matters more than anyone else’s. You are unique, the chosen one for him.

You might know someone who’s always confident but gets nervous and uncomfortable around you, and the most apparent sign is he blushes. A guy who blushes likes you.

He will use an unsure tone and find different ways to talk to you even though the situation doesn’t require it. You might notice he can keep the conversation going and never run out of topics.

According to psychology, a guy is most likely trying to impress you when he gets nervous around you, which means he cares about your thoughts. Usually, you can watch out for his sweaty palms or a shaky talking tone.

If this happens every time you’re in the same room together, it’s obvious he likes you but is trying to hide it. Please be sure to look for any noticeable changes in his behavior. He might be hiding his feelings.

22 He tries to draw your attention

A guy who likes you is thirsty for your attention.

If you notice a guy keeps getting the attention of everyone around you, it is usually a sign he likes you. One who feels nothing for you won’t strive to behave himself in front of you.

For instance, when he is cracking a joke with other people and notices you are looking at him, he will try to make you laugh, too.

Only a fearless, extroverted, persistent guy will always try to behave perfectly to be outstanding. However, there are possibilities that he only changes small details to be better than usual.

If you have felt it more than once when being with him, it’s probably true he likes you but is just really bad at showing it.

23 He initiate text messages with you

A guy who treats you as his crush will typically start the conversation via text messaging.

Probably he is not that creative in the usage of words. It’s possibly because he doesn’t have enough knowledge to stretch the conversation. So he keeps it simple. And he might send you funny, witty, or flirty text messages throughout the day, even in an awkward time.

If this happens occasionally, you should take it as a clear sign that he likes you and is trying to be distinctive in your mind.

24 He tells you about his life details and deep thoughts

Lovers in an actual relationship are likely to share details of their lives with each other.

Such as what the boss told them that wrecked the day or dinner and snack selection they had at their favorite restaurant. They share everything without even a second thought.

A guy who likes you but is playing it cool enjoys the same lifestyle as true lovers with you. He feels connected to you when he shares his personal matters with you. And if he has valuable ideas, he shares them with you, too. He wants you to understand him better and be a part of his life.

If someone tells you everything is going on in his life, it usually means he likes you. And it has been his habit to share with you every day. He feels the day is not over until he shares his life with you.

25 You can feel it intuitively

Sometimes, you’re 100% certain someone likes you, but you don’t know why.

You know he is just trying to be cool, but you can’t identify a sensible reason. You have no conclusive evidence, but you still know he likes you without a shadow of a doubt.

Being with the one who falls for you but does not want to reveal his true feelings, you can feel the affection he is spreading in your gut.

You can subconsciously feel that this guy in front of you is different from regular people. It is based on a kind of women’s intuition, and chemical reactions in your body drive it.  

So if you realize that you are judging if someone likes you, it’s because your intuition has caught the clues. Your intuition uses the cues you have ever collected to draw the conclusion. And most of the time, it’s accurate.

Conclusion

Let’s end the article with a quote:

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Loving you is the important thing. There are some people who think love is sex and marriage and six o‘clock-kisses and children,and perhaps it is.But do you know that I think?I think love is a touch and yet not a touch.

—— SALINGER 《THE HEART OF THE STORY》

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The guy probably thinks the same as the quote. He likes you but is afraid of getting close because you are perfect in his eyes.

Signs a guy who likes you secretly are the same as signs a guy is pretending to be straight. Either way, he hides his flaws and deficiencies under a cover, a mask. Because you are perfect to him, he has to be perfect to match your needs.

If you find someone showing up when you need help, motivating you to progress every day, and including you in their life, he probably likes you but just playing it cool.