In this post, I will share four signs that a man emotionally invests in you.
This is one of my favorite things to talk about. We will unpack four foolproof signs that a man is opening his heart to, catching feelings for, and falling in love with you. We’re going to do these in order from the early stages of getting to know somebody through the moment when things become very real.
So these four signs we will go through, from the beginning of a relationship onward, are actions a man takes. And it helps you see that he is starting to develop deeper feelings for you.
1 He courts you from the very beginning.
First, he courts you from the very beginning, after you meet him or pretty soon.
I know when you hear the word “courting”, you might think of some fancy formal process. It would be my greatest pleasure if you would do me the favor of letting me lead you through this.
But I mean that he’s going to be more formal in a very sweet way in how he initiates contact with you.
He will ask you on formally structured dates rather than just being like, hey, I want to come over and watch Netflix. He’s going to be very focused, directive, and a little formal in how he invites you to connect with him.
For example, he might say, would you like to get dinner with me this Friday? I’d love to pick you up. That’s a clear, direct, and formal invitation because he sees you as a high-quality, influential person to him. When he asks you that don’t you feel like you’re a priority to him?
When a man begins to court you more formally, you won’t doubt that you’re a priority to him and that he is emotionally investing in you.
2 He plans ahead like a boss
The second sign is that he plans ahead like a boss.
When a man wants to achieve something, he will set a detailed plan.
For example, before climbing a mountain, he will devise a blueprint and execute that. He will look ahead to the next step until he achieves the goal.
It’s the same thing when he’s emotionally investing in you. If he sees someone he would love to come into his life, he will be planning and looking ahead constantly because he sees a future with you.
While you’re on one date, as that date’s coming to an end, he will ask you, hey, when can I see you again? He will be laying the foundation for the next time you’re getting together.
Would you like to do this? What about if we do that? There’s always going to be a sense of future in the way he talks to you because he’s planning ahead and wants to keep bringing you into that next phase of his life.
Recognize if he’s doing this. This is him stepping up and into his masculine power with you and looking to drive things in a positive direction.
You have a great responsibility and opportunity to surrender, receive, and trust the plan he got for you. It is going to be a good one.
You will feel safe, be able to relax, and enjoy the ride in the process.
3 He’s responsive to your needs and desires
This can be judged in a lot of different ways.
It can look like you are setting a boundary of liking to go on dates earlier rather than later in the night. So from that point, he always asks you for dinner at 5:30 or 6:00 rather than nine or ten.
Maybe you like a particular type of food or music. And if he knows this, he will get the whole date planned next time hanging out with you, which involves Indian food, Backstreet Boys, or anything else.
He’s asking you and collecting information about what you like. He’s listening to your boundaries and preferences. He’s giving them back to you in the way he responds to you, and the other way that this might look is that he’s sensitive to your needs.
For example, my girlfriend and I live together. Usually, I get up hours earlier than she does, and I don’t want to wake her up. I love my morning shake but don’t want to wake her up. So I take the blender into the garage, close the door and blend my smoothie so she can continue to sleep. I know how important sleep is for her to have a wonderful day.
If a man is thinking about you and you can tell he’s really invested in your needs and preferences, that will be a good sign as you two are getting to know each other and he’s becoming more and more emotionally invested in you.
4 He likes to play with you
The last sign that he plays with you goes to the fundamental principle.
At heart, all men are little boys. They are dying to play one of the most fun ways with our feminine partner.
As the two of you get to know each other, you start to trust each other more. There’s a sense of emotional safety and understanding cultivated between you two.
He wants to play, but it may look like he is teasing you to some extent. He will like messing with you, including watching funny stuff together, laughing about it, or figuring out what each other’s senses of humor are like.
It might look like guys playing competitive games, talking a little smack, and going back and forth. It might not be super mature, but it will be super fun.
So I want you to ask yourself: Is he inviting you into play? Is he teasing you? Is he being competitive with you? Does he want to go to mini golf? Is he asking you to play video games with him?
The biggest question is the two of you laughing when being together.
If you’re laughing and having fun, and it’s not super severe and can be silly sometimes, that’s a great sign that his walls are coming down and his heart is coming out.
I know that in my relationship with my girlfriend, I love playing with her, dancing with her, going around with her, etc.
We’re having so much fun, and we are laughing together. It’s one of my favorite parts of our relationship.
Conclusion
As a man falls in love, he will communicate with you. His feelings for you are growing. But he will not be communicating with you often through his words.
Emotional vulnerability verbally is terrifying for many men. Instead, a man will show you that he cares about you through his actions.
And these four signs indicate that your boyfriend is emotionally invested in you through his actions.
[Also read: 25 Signs He Likes You But Is Playing It Cool]
Thanks for your reading, and I hope there’s something helpful for you.
