In the post, I’m going to share four ways to earn his loyalty and commitment.
Trust me, if a guy feels inspired and activated, he desires and wants to step into a deeper relationship with you. He wants to commit to a high-value partner.
So what does it mean, and how do we get to show up to inspire that commitment from him? Well, let’s dive into it.
1 Express your needs and desires
This is so powerful to a man. Believe it or not, he wants to know what you need to be happy. He wants you to express your boundaries to him. He wants to hear from you what your desires are.
From our perspective, it is crucial to hear that you have no problem saying something like this is what I like, this is what I don’t like, I appreciate it, etc.
When you let your man know ahead of time where you’re going on a date, he will appreciate you taking the lead.
So are you expressing your needs and desires? Are you setting boundaries proactively with the masculine early on and getting to know him?
If you can do it, you’re demonstrating that you’re a high-value woman, putting yourself in a great position to move things forward and have a committed relationship with him.
2 Be his emotional sanctuary
The second way to inspire and activate his loyalty and commitment is to be his emotional sanctuary. This speaks to a fundamental principle that what the masculine craves deeply from the feminine is emotional safety.
Men want to feel safe to open their hearts to you. They need to feel safe to be vulnerable and share their feelings with you. They don’t have another place to expose their weakness.
Men don’t have any other place to speak vulnerably and be vulnerable in any form. Men can’t do it with their friends and family. And as his woman, you’re the only person he can genuinely be emotionally safe with and open up to.
Recognize that it’s like a sacred responsibility and superpower you have. So honor the fact by inviting a man to be vulnerable, asking him how he’s feeling, and letting him know that he’s safe to share with you what’s in his heart.
He can only share his feelings without you attacking him or taking him personally.
You are seen as his vibrant sanctuary if you can cultivate that emotionally safe space for him. It is going to inspire him to want to be committed to you.
He will feel like this woman is different from all other women. And he can share what’s in his heart with her because she’s welcoming it and inviting him into it profoundly and powerfully.
So invite a man and ask him how he’s feeling. Ask him what happened to him at work. Let him know how much you love to hear his feelings, and give him the opportunity and space to be vulnerable with you.
I guarantee it will make him want a deeper relationship with you.
3 Be there for him consistently and unconditionally
The third way to get that loyalty and commitment from the masculine and Inspire him to go there with you is to be there for him consistently and unconditionally. Both of these things are extremely important.
Many men have this story, and I was one of them. For a long time, we have had the story that a woman will only be there for us if it’s conditional. She’ll only be there for us if we can provide for her well. She’ll only be there for us if we’re successful and doing well.
Many men have this fear deep down. Whatever our trajectory and the empire we are building, if we’re unable to continue being successful, falling down from that, or having a weak moment, our partner will leave. It denotes that we can not keep her safe, and hence she will leave.
It matters if you’re able to vulnerably express to a guy you’re dating like, listen, I’m not just in this for when it’s easy, I’m not just in this because you’re doing well, I’m in this because I love and believe in you, and if you’re having a hard day, I’m not going to leave, I’m not going anywhere.
You show up for him consistently when he’s having a good day, a bad day, a stressed-out day, or an in-between day.
You’re there as his rock, and don’t let the fluctuations of what he’s dealing with impact you emotionally.
He will really love that and feel safer with you. It will permit him to be more vulnerable with you.
So ask and check in with yourself, are you showing up consistently and unconditionally for the guy you’re getting to know? Does he know he doesn’t need to be strong and perfect with you?
Constantly expanding like rock, you’re willing to be there for him when he’s hurting, suffering, or weak. If you’re able to create that understanding with him, he will love it, and it will deepen your connection, making him want to be more committed and loyal to you.
4 Take responsibility for your own happiness
The fourth way to earn his loyalty and commitment is to take responsibility for your own happiness.
I cannot tell you how important this is. Because many times in relationships, men default to the thought that your happiness is their responsibility, but this is a dangerous space to get into because a happy relationship is based on codependency, and codependency creates a dynamic connection equilibrium.
If the only way that makes you happy comes from him, like his doings and showing up, it’s dangerous for a healthy relationship because it puts a lot of pressure on men.
If men feel that your happiness is their responsibility, your relationship will eventually become a job, and it will exhaust your partner. If men’s job in a relationship is to keep you happy, and if they quit the job, you will be unhappy and lose interest in him.
But if you take full radical accountability and ownership of your own happiness, you know what to do will fill your cup.
You will do the things that bring you joy. You will maintain your friends, engage in your work, and manage your mental health. You choose to be an entirely emotionally healthy person on your own.
That way, a man will invite you into his life as another complete person, and together you can have a beautiful expansive relationship.
Taking responsibility for your own happiness demonstrates that you don’t need him to provide you with that. But to some extent, he does make you feel happier, so it’s the reason you choose to be with him.
It will be liberating for a man so he won’t feel that sense of pressure.
When you don’t come to a man with that pressure and neediness energy, it will just be liberating for him. As he feels freer and more activated when being with you, he will want a deeper relationship and commitment with you.
Conclusion
To recap those four ways to inspire his loyalty and commitment:
- Own and express your needs and desires proactively and early on.
- Be his emotional sanctuary and invite him to step into vulnerability, sharing his feelings with you.
- Be there for him consistently and unconditionally. That’s a big one. Men really want to feel supported same as the way they support who they are and what they’re up to in the world.
- Take responsibility for your own happiness; don’t make it your partner’s job and responsibility. Don’t make your relationship more work.
These are vital, so near and dear to the heart of a man in a beautiful, committed relationship who feels all of these for his partner.
It’s a big reason I chose my girlfriend because she has shown up to meet all four of these criteria. And that’s why I stepped up and claimed her in a powerful way.
Thank you for reading the post, and I wish you a happy relationship with a man who has loyalty and commitment engaged in it.
