Want to ignite meaningful conversation and strengthen your bond with your partner? “Would You Rather” questions are a fun yet serious way to learn more about each other’s thoughts, values and dreams — even if you have been together for years.
If you’re planning a date night at home, or just want to shake things up with a little tired dinner conversation, this fun game reveals surprising insights about your partner and brings you closer.
From playful situations that incite laughter to agonizing dilemmas that lead to deep conversation, here are some carefully curated armed would you rather questions you can ask and get to know the new layers of your relationship while enjoying the process.
It’s a not-so-hip version of those light-dimming, mood-setting Q&As, each question a door to greater insight and increasing intimacy with your partner.
Categories of Questions
1. Fun & Lighthearted Questions
- Would you rather have the ability to talk to houseplants or understand what your appliances are thinking?
- Would you rather have taste buds in your armpits or eyes in the back of your head?
- Would you rather have to sing everything you say or dance every time you walk?
- Would you rather have unlimited free pizza but only one topping forever, or all toppings available but can only eat pizza once a month?
- Would you rather have fingers as long as your legs or a tongue as long as your arm?
- Would you rather always speak in rhymes or always speak in third person?
- Would you rather have to wear a Halloween costume every day or formal attire to bed?
- Would you rather have the ability to teleport but only into public restrooms or fly but only 3 feet off the ground?
- Would you rather always smell like fresh cookies or always sound like Morgan Freeman?
- Would you rather have confetti fall from your pockets every time you walk or have jazz music play whenever you run?
- Would you rather be able to shrink anything or make anything glow in the dark?
- Would you rather only be able to whisper or only be able to shout?
- Would you rather have a personal soundtrack playing everywhere you go or a laugh track following all your jokes?
- Would you rather have a pocket that produces unlimited snacks or unlimited clean socks?
- Would you rather have hair that changes color based on your mood or skin that becomes transparent when you’re lying?
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2. Deep & Thought-Provoking Questions
- Would you rather know the complete history of your family line or know your entire future?
- Would you rather have the ability to relive any memory perfectly or completely forget all painful memories?
- Would you rather be the only person who can solve a global crisis but no one believes you, or know about an impending disaster but be unable to warn anyone?
- Would you rather experience every death that has ever occurred or experience every birth?
- Would you rather know the truth behind every conspiracy or be the only person who knows the meaning of life?
- Would you rather have everyone’s basic needs met but no luxury exists, or have extreme luxury available but only to a select few?
- Would you rather be able to experience every possible life path you could have taken or know the impact of every decision you’ve ever made?
- Would you rather be the last person to die on Earth or the first person to live on a new planet?
- Would you rather have the ability to speak to the dead or the ability to see all possible futures?
- Would you rather know when everyone else will die or be the only person who doesn’t know when they will die?
- Would you rather live in a world where no one feels pain or a world where everyone feels others’ pain?
- Would you rather have the ability to solve every problem you encounter but create two new ones, or never solve any problems but prevent new ones from arising?
- Would you rather be the smartest person in a world of limited knowledge or the most average person in a world of geniuses?
- Would you rather experience every historical event firsthand or be able to preview every future event?
- Would you rather know every language that has ever existed or be able to communicate with all forms of life?
3. Relationship-Focused Questions
- Would you rather have a partner who never argues but also never deeply connects, or one who challenges you daily but deeply understands you?
- Would you rather share all your passwords or share all your private thoughts with your partner?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s amazing at grand romantic gestures but forgets daily affection, or one who’s consistently caring but never does anything big?
- Would you rather live together in a tiny house or live separately in mansions?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s always honest even if it hurts, or one who tells white lies to protect your feelings?
- Would you rather share every hobby with your partner or have completely separate interests?
- Would you rather have matching tattoos or never be able to take photos together?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s always spontaneous and unpredictable or one who’s entirely routine-driven?
- Would you rather share one social media account as a couple or never be able to mention each other online?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s extremely successful but always busy, or one who’s always available but professionally stagnant?
- Would you rather have all your ex-partners as close friends or never speak of past relationships?
- Would you rather share every meal together or always eat separately but have better quality time otherwise?
- Would you rather have a partner who can read your mind or one who can perfectly predict your future?
- Would you rather travel everywhere together but only to places one of you chooses, or travel separately but to your dream destinations?
- Would you rather have a relationship where you never fight but also never laugh together, or one with frequent arguments but constant laughter?
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4. Romantic & Flirty Questions
- Would you rather have a partner who writes you daily love poems or one who creates weekly surprise dates?
- Would you rather share a romantic dance in the rain or a passionate kiss in the snow?
- Would you rather have candlelit dinners every night or breakfast in bed every morning?
- Would you rather receive a handwritten love letter every day or a surprise gift every week?
- Would you rather have your partner serenade you in public or create a private art piece just for you?
- Would you rather share a midnight picnic under the stars or a sunrise yoga session on the beach?
- Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen while cooking or have playful pillow fights before bed?
- Would you rather go on spontaneous midnight adventures or planned romantic getaways?
- Would you rather share intimate secrets in a cozy blanket fort or while floating in a private pool?
- Would you rather have your partner leave sweet notes everywhere or send flirty texts throughout the day?
- Would you rather share a bubble bath with rose petals or a couples massage under the moonlight?
- Would you rather recreate your first date every anniversary or create a new romantic tradition each year?
- Would you rather have your partner compose a song about you or paint your portrait?
- Would you rather share romantic moments in secret hideaways or celebrate your love openly everywhere?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s great at verbal affection or physical displays of love?
5. Future & Life Goals Questions
- Would you rather build a successful business together or separately achieve dream careers?
- Would you rather live in multiple countries throughout life or build deep roots in one perfect location?
- Would you rather invest in a dream house now or travel the world for five years first?
- Would you rather pursue higher education together or focus on building a family business?
- Would you rather work intensely for 10 years and retire early or work moderately until traditional retirement?
- Would you rather have a minimalist lifestyle with extensive travel or a luxurious home life with occasional trips?
- Would you rather focus on building generational wealth or creating meaningful life experiences?
- Would you rather live off-grid in a self-sustained home or in a smart home in a modern city?
- Would you rather start a charitable foundation together or each support different causes individually?
- Would you rather prioritize saving for children’s education or for early retirement?
- Would you rather build a large networking circle together or maintain a small, close-knit group of friends?
- Would you rather focus on digital entrepreneurship or traditional business ventures?
- Would you rather live near family and have limited career options or pursue dream jobs far away?
- Would you rather invest in multiple small properties or save for one dream estate?
- Would you rather prioritize international adoption or fertility treatments if needed?
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6. Values & Beliefs Questions
- Would you rather live by strict principles that occasionally hurt others or flexible values that sometimes compromise your integrity?
- Would you rather follow family traditions that you disagree with or create new ones that might alienate family?
- Would you rather expose your children to all religions or raise them in one specific belief system?
- Would you rather live in a diverse community with different values or a homogeneous one sharing your beliefs?
- Would you rather make decisions based on emotional intelligence or logical reasoning?
- Would you rather advocate publicly for your beliefs or quietly live by your principles?
- Would you rather choose a job that compromises some values but helps more people or one totally aligned with your values but helps fewer?
- Would you rather maintain harmony by keeping opinions private or create conflict by standing up for beliefs?
- Would you rather raise children with structured discipline or free-range parenting?
- Would you rather prioritize individual success or community well-being?
- Would you rather live by traditional gender roles or completely reject them?
- Would you rather make ethical compromises for family benefits or maintain principles at family’s expense?
- Would you rather change religious/political views for love or maintain beliefs and risk relationship conflict?
- Would you rather teach children absolute rights and wrongs or situational ethics?
- Would you rather live in a society that values collective good or individual freedom?
Why “Would You Rather” Questions Are Great for Couples?
Just because you’ve been with your partner for months or decades doesn’t mean the fun of getting to know one another has to be behind you. “Would You Rather” questions allow for a change of pace in common conversation, providing an atmosphere where casual and serious dialogue can emerge freely.
Rather than asking direct questions that may feel interview-like, these scenario-based choices provide the opportunity for organic dialogue that often leads to surprising discoveries.
As one couple found while playing a similar question game on their roof during quarantine, and as couples in years together can discover: After so many years together, there were still mysteries to be uncovered between them.
These questions act as a relationship aphrodisiac — they promote active listening, cooperative chuckling, and additional inquiry into each other’s motivations and mind-set.
Whether you’re searching for a fun way to kill time together, or looking to enhance your emotional bond with some playful banter, this simple game can shift an otherwise ordinary evening into a time of discovery and intimacy.
Tips for Playing “Would You Rather” with Your Partner
Having the right environment and approach to make the most of your “Would You Rather” experience
Find a comfortable setting, one where you can both relax and focus on each other — maybe a cozy night in, while sharing a meal, or on a long drive.
Ask questions back and forth over the table and allow time for each other not just to answer, but to discuss what led you to that answer. Amp up the fun and mix serious questions with the slightly silly to keep the balance right.
Don’t feel pressure to get through all the questions; some of the best conversations will come from diving into one scenario in detail.
Keep in mind that there are no right answers — the purpose is not to come to consensus on everything but to help you all better understand each other’s perspectives and reasoning. When you get into deeper topics, tread carefully and be sensitive to your partner’s comfort level and when to pivot to lighter topics.
Above all, play the game with curiosity and honesty, accepting that every answer is an opportunity to know more about your beloved. Anyway, hope that the relationship between you and your partner will get better and better, and you will have a happy intimate relationship. Love u~ 😉
